Conflict

Often times I find myself censoring my feelings/issues with my sister. My sister is six years younger than I, and lives the freedom of a typical 23 year old. She’s got a great job as a registered nurse, and I believe that is admirable for her age. We are rather different, and I believe that is part of the reason why we have conflict. I had to mature when I was 16 and had a child on the way, she doesn’t need to grow up so fast like I did. In the end she doesn’t see the world as I do, she is a perceiver and I am a judger. We are both very strong willed and not afraid to say what’s on our minds. When our opinions are different during most of our conversations, I often feel that I am the one who avoids continuing the conflict. I will show avoidance by leaving the situation or just letting her have the last word. I stop the conflict because in the end it’s not worth loosing family. We spend 1-2 weekends a month at my parent’s house because of our distance from them. My sister lives next door to my parents, so I have learned when it’s time to walk away because it’s not worth the stress it causes on my parents.

This summer we did get into a rather big argument because her look on life was just getting to be too much for me personally. I could only handle so much and when she got mad at me because I stopped to get myself dinner because it was 7:30 at night. (she was mad because she was making food that I didn’t know about) After the argument ensued, we both left my parent’s house. It was a month before I talked to her, and of course my Mother being rather upset because of it. It ended in me apologizing, and her in turn doing the same. I am still learning how to remind myself that her views are a lot different than mine. Hopefully, over time we can both learn to be better communicators and have constructive conflicts.